What is your
Love Language? Have you ever felt like you just
weren’t on the same page as your loved one? Perhaps for some
of you it’s the same planet. You may be wondering how could
you love someone so much yet at times they drive you absolutely in
sane? Possibly it is because you don’t speak the same
language when it comes to love. It’s like trying to have an
in depth conversation with someone that speaks a foreign language.
Often, in this instance, we have to resort to gestures in an attempt to
make our point known. Unfortunately, this also occurs frequently in our
relationships and marriages; however, the gestures we usually choose
aren’t as successful at getting the intended point
across. Dr. Gary Chapman has written a
magnificent book call “The Five Love Languages”
that has helped many couples decode the mystery of communication inside
a relationship. In the book he describes five types of love languages.
Each of us has a language that we understand when it comes to love. If
your language and your partner’s language are different, it
can make for less than blissful times. According to Dr. Chapman,
research reveals that married people have overall better emotional and
physical health, live longer lives, experience greater sexual
satisfaction, have greater incomes, and consequently more accumulated
wealth. I’m not sure there is a person on the planet that
would say they couldn’t handle greatness in any of these
areas of their life. So how do you work to achieve such harmony? During his 30 years of marriage
counseling, Dr. Chapman has discovered five languages for love. Each
language is representative of how you give and therefore, receive love.
They are:
The goal is to identify and
understand your love language as well as your partners. The idea
isn’t to change who you are or your love language but to
obtain understanding for the purposes of communication. For example,
let’s say your love language is acts of service. In order to
show your partner how much you truly love him you cook him special
meals, take his car in to be washed, and ensure his laundry is done and
pressed the way he likes it. These seem like simple required chores but
you do them with joy because they are an expression of your love for
him. Now let’s look at him. His love language is a
combination of physical touch and quality time. He always wants to
spend time together cuddling on the couch, holding hands, sitting and
talking (sounds like an ideal man, huh?). However, these things are
enjoyable to you but not if they interfere with your ability to provide
him with service oriented love messages. You are trying to finish
preparing him a wonderful dinner and he keeps coming in the kitchen
hugging on you. You are frustrated because he is in your way and he is
frustrated because he feels you are pushing him away. This is perhaps
not a typical example; however, it gives you an idea of how differences
in love languages can interfere with your relationship. So what is the solution? Find out
what each of your love languages are and understand what that means to
the other person. Then make an effort to acknowledge your
partner’s love language by making a deliberate attempt to
express love to him in his language. This is something you can start
today and it can have immediate impact on your relationship for life.
To find our your love language and more in-depth information, you can
visit Dr. Chapman’s web site at www.fivelovelanguages.com . Now that you are on your way to
better communication, prepare for all those things married people enjoy
more often to start coming your way. True intimacy in every aspect of
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